What could be the two most important feeling expressed by one person to another is care and love. In many situations the two comes together in perfect harmony. However, there are times when one precedes the other making the one inappropriate when one is ahead of the other. When someone cares it usually stay on just caring for the other person and in the case of loving the person beyond the typical romance the feeling gets too exhilarated to even remember to care.
Why do we hurt the most the one we love the most? It is because we forget to care, that simply because we love we also need to take away the pain, the hurting, the worry, and so much more, from the person we love. Sadly, instead of doing so we oftentimes even highlight what is already painful and lose giving care and taking away pain from the person we really do love the most.
How sweet it is if everyone who loves cares for the person even more.
Happy New Year to everyone! To my friends especially to Mark, who helped out to make it through the challenges of 2007, and for accompanying through the new year 2008, and also to Tina.
It was more than a challenge that I went through last year my friends. It was a test of will if I may call it that. A challenge, I would rather consider a mere dare that one has a choice to take or not. What I went through was a test of will, its a do or die situation. Left with no other choice but to move on I took the test to determine my endurance for life. With that sole option but with all my friends beside I was able to take the test and determined the extent of my will. It was a realization I never had before in my entire lifetime.
I loved and I thought that loving is giving up everything for love. I loved and I thought it was turning away from all that you believe in just to prove your love. I loved and firmly chained myself to it just to secure that love that I thought I could keep, but to my realization it was not what loving is. To love is to hope and to dream, as well. To love is to live ones life to the fullest as you would for someone you love. For what good would your life be to give out to someone that your life is preserved in a jar, preserved as it is but no life ahead of it. What would love be without that life outside of the jar, living and moving, and hoping and dreaming that there would be more ahead of today and tomorrow. For what is love today when there is no tomorrow.
A comment posted by Oliver, PLN deem necessary be posted upfront.
The Pinoy Love Notes owe Tina this space for her email sent after the posting of the note regarding the absence of any response from them, Tina and Oliver, on the issue that was initiated last year just before the Holidays. Likewise, we apologize for the unfounded comment regarding this and this posting, we hope, would suffice as reprieve for Tina as well as Oliver.
“Forgive me guys for the silence, it was my effort to hid some of the comments I read from this site weighing each which would be fair to me as well as fair to whoever made the suggestion. I did thought of that instant when I decided to have this out on the net in desperation of making contact with Oliver again. From the comments as well as suggestions from everyone who dearly followed up my concern I thank you and wish you all good love in the New Year, may you all be spared from such a situation that I am in right now.
I am hoping still that Oliver would be able to get any of this messages even if there is no concern nor at the least intention to send back a note to let me and everyone else know that he’s still alive. Love is not expecting anything in return. Just want to know that he’s alright wherever he may be.”
A portion of an email that Tina sent in response to a previous note on this site.
It is saddening that neither Oliver nor Tina (an earlier story posts we had on this blog) was interested in corresponding to us if only to have the message sent to one or to the other even only for the Holiday that just passed us by. We can only hope that they were able to communicate with each other in some other way not through us not to waste what was already started. Some followers were asking how they are and we in Pinoy Love Notes can only shrug our shoulders in desperation.
At first we thought of a love affair coming out of the distance to probe that love knows no distance or should I say boundaries. But it seems correct and the effort to touch the hearts of the two lovers is a shot put to the moon. Or maybe not, there is still Valentine’s Day to speak of. Maybe there is a different magic that St. Valentine can offer to the two poor souls that can bridge the long distance to make their love flourish once again.
When one is alone, you can’t help to be lonely, but you can play with being alone and still try to be happy, does that make sense.
Comment by Paolo (click comments of original post for source)
Just a thought here that could somehow provide some or a little light to the dreaded fear of being left alone. Tina is not necessarily trying to get back Oliver to be together again but rather she is merely trying to make Oliver still a part of whatever she is striving for, her academic pursuit vis-a-vis her career. Being physically apart is being alone but being present in the mind and probably in the heart referring to affections despite the aloneness, is not being lonely.
One could be alone and yet not lonesome. The case of Tina and Oliver is a good example of a case analysis of aloneness and loneliness. Tina fled to the US without clear knowledge of Oliver’s whereabouts and that made her alone in her pursuit and since she did not receive any assurance of support from Oliver for her trip made it a lonely effort for a career jump of her life. It couldn’t have been lonely if Oliver is part still of whatever Tina is pursuing.
As much as I would like to keep Ver’s confidence, I can’t help leaving Tina in haywire looking for all possible ways and means to get in touch with him, so I will give her one of Oliver’s email add that we used to exchange emails to. However, this email add is not necessary his formal official email, I just hope that he’s still updating this. oliverchongki@yahoo.com
Tina’s attempt to reach out to Oliver via the cyberspace is as legitimate as any expression of love made through snail mail or telephone or face-to-face conversation. If Tina honestly thinks and feels that it is the best way to let Oliver know about how she feels for him (and I suppose her “strategy” worked quite well because one of Oliver’s closest friends has read her message), then no Tom, Dick or Harry or any counselor-wannabe can impose his/her values on Tina.
To me, Tina’s attempt is humane and liberating.
Comment via email from a friend taking his PhD in Singapore
life is too short to be blue! in this life, a matter of choice is very important for BOTH man and woman if that involves a relationship, not only one but two. after all, believe in love’s destiny, once you have done all of your efforts, pray fervently and let God take the rests, our Heavenly Father knows what is best for his sons and daughters….
Comment by libs (click comments below for source)
well naramdaman ko na din yan (I did felt the same thing before),. if you really love that person hahanapin mo talaga siya (you will do everything to find him/her) … okei lang na hanapin mo siya (it’s okay to look for him that much) … pero you should know when to stop.. and you should learn all your limitations as well..
Comment by drew (click comment below for source)
